One of the long-standing traditional events at a wedding is the opportunity given to a Father and Bride as well as a Mother and Groom to have a spotlight moment on the dance floor. As I’ve met with Brides, Grooms, and Parents over the years one of the most “challenging” things is for them to find the “Right” song to dance with each other during the reception. My suggestions Always starts with asking “Is there a song that means something to you both?” Some have music associated with memories, something that played on the radio during a time they spent together, or a song that is played every family trip, some have no idea or preference.
Many (usually fathers) are hesitant to be in the spotlight and are leary of dancing in public. While I will never ask someone to do something that makes them feel uncomfortable, I will offer a couple suggestions:
Don’t worry about the “Dance” aspect. Nobody attends a wedding expecting to see a performance from Dancing with the Stars, everone comes to support not judge the family.
Feel free to Talk during the dance. There is no better opportunity for a parent to spend a few minutes telling their son or daughter their feelings and emotions on this special day
Multiple Parents is very common. If someone has 2 people that have both been a mom/dad it’s okay not to “Choose” just one. Dancing with both is perfectly acceptable. The DJ should be able to help the 2nd parent know when to cut-in.
Don’t Split Up! There’s no “Hard Rule” that says each dance has to be a separate event, the majority of weddings I work with involve both sets of parents dancing with their children at the same time.
To help the thought process here are 15 Song Suggestions for dancing with a parent to get the creative juices flowing or to spark a conversation.
|Father / Daughter Dance Suggestions|
|Mother / Son Dance Suggestions|