As a DJ in Utah, I have noticed that there is a new trend across the country (really the world) that makes me ask the question “Why Attend The Party?”
People attend a “party” for a myriad of reasons. We all go to a wedding to show our love and/or support for the Bride and Groom, we go to a concert because we want to experience the music we love in a live setting. Teenagers to to dances and parties to meet people that they enjoy spending time with, find to be attractive and hope to be found attractive in return.
And while most will say that is why they go to these events, the reality appears to be just the opposite, it seems to be for the perception of these things. We live in a time where technology is progressing at an amazing rate bringing the ability for everyone to interact with the world in new and exciting ways. What it also seems to be doing (in my humble opinion) is removing the “party” experience and creating a “silo” experience. We are becoming a society of people that can be surrounded by others like they are… Alone in a group of people that are alone. No longer are the “loners” the individuals on the edges, they are the collective group of people living their lives staring at a LCD display on an electronic device. The human connection of a gathering seems to be becoming something of the past.
I saw this photo online, and while I can’t track down the artist to give proper credit, I was instantly struck by the powerful message it portrayed. For the nearly 30 years I have been a Professional DJ Entertainer I have seen this massive shift in the actions of guests at all events. Most guests I watch at a wedding, school dance, company holiday party, etc. seem to be more interested in viewing the world around them as portrayed through their smart-phone than actually experiencing the event. Dances are, by nature, an opportunity for people to get together, unfortunately, the most “together” I see is the group #Selfie that is being taken.
As I’ve attended concerts, the trend has shifted dramatically from people getting caught up in the energy and experience that only exists in a live-concert setting to watching the concert, again, through their Smart-Phone as they try to record the experience. I see the same thing at weddings as guests focus more on recording or capturing the events taking place than being a part of the festivities.
While it’s short, Photographer Valerie Walker put together a great piece on the question “How much of your life are you willing to spend on your phone?”
So to answer my question “Why Attend The Party?” can I propose that it’s something as simple as to HAVE FUN! As you go to different events, I would like to encourage everyone to, once again, Enjoy the Experience! Look around with your eyes, listen with your heart as well as your ears to the soundtrack of life and feel inside how that makes you actually feel.
Good Memories are not captured on a memory chip, those captures Normally Look Like This and not like what we truly remember in our minds. The next time you go to a Wedding, Concert, Dance, or Party, can I suggest that use your phone… Only As A Phone. If you need to make a call, make a call. It’s okay to snap a quick picture if you like. But, leave the actual event recording to the professional Sound Technician, Photographer, Videographer, etc. The DJ at the event will help create an atmosphere that allows you to have a fabulous time if you’ll let it.